tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949315742598489928.post6610420990280831847..comments2023-10-30T09:47:14.297-05:00Comments on Of Woods and Words: What's In A Name?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05212497767953671307noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949315742598489928.post-51166251911650482252012-01-09T16:19:40.142-06:002012-01-09T16:19:40.142-06:00My daughter just got married in Sept..she is no sh...My daughter just got married in Sept..she is no shares our name Ah! but that's ok..I am your newest follower..pls follow back if you can!momto8https://www.blogger.com/profile/13964950285763339907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949315742598489928.post-58429803104641418242012-01-06T05:18:54.057-06:002012-01-06T05:18:54.057-06:00This is a subject I get really fired up about. Des...This is a subject I get really fired up about. Despite writing in our names correctly in Jay's grandma's address book, we get our Christmas cards to "Mr. & Mrs. Jay DeCoux." We are the Arrowsmith DeCouxs, for one, and for another I really, really hate leaving out the woman's first name. It's so patriarchal and feels very demeaning to me. If it happened equally often that we got mail to Mrs and Mr Rose Arrowsmith then I think it would all be funny instead. My brother-in-law's wife didnt' take his name, and even after recently getting her doctorate, they got their card to Mr. & Mrs. Kevin DeCoux.<br />I LOVE that Jay also took my name; Arrowsmith wasn't hard to sell, but I still appreciate it. I think a name change when you get married makes sense symbolically, since you do change--but both of you change, and the name should reflect that.<br />It was a big decision to just use DeCoux for our son's last name, with Arrowsmith as his second middle name, but it seemed like maybe someday he'd marry someone with two last names, and how do you combine that? Nonetheless, I don't tell people that--I just say we're the "Arrowsmith DeCoux family" because we are.<br />Hmm. As this is the longest comment I've ever left, maybe I'd better blog about it myself. Thanks for the provocation.Rose Arrowsmith DeCouxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05784417321168052601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949315742598489928.post-16808161737927866572012-01-05T22:48:20.172-06:002012-01-05T22:48:20.172-06:00My hubby has gotten mail with my hyphenated last n...My hubby has gotten mail with my hyphenated last name as his last name! Now that was strange to see. <br /><br />I was married once before and took his last name. This time I decided I wanted to keep some of the identification of my maiden name. So I decided to hyphenate it since it wasn't too long. <br /><br />But it is a hassle to spell out (mostly because my maiden name is a little unique) and I have to say the first last name, HYPHEN, the second last name. Also a lot of computer systems can't handle the hyphen so I might get one or the other or both blended together. <br /><br />And having places look up my name, whether it's filed under the last name before or after the hyphen! That was one problem I never thought of! <br /><br />But I'm still glad I did it this way.<br /><br />Sorry for the lonnnngggg comment!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10372160291219360666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949315742598489928.post-56018188564371544562012-01-05T22:28:36.308-06:002012-01-05T22:28:36.308-06:00I have a similar situation to you, we've lived...I have a similar situation to you, we've lived together a couple of years and get things addressed in a myriad of ways. I haven't ever gotten just my name with the man's last name though haha. We did get a "the ___ household" and "mr and mrs _____" once (with my last name hahaha). I feel similarly about keeping my name, too, even if we do ever get married. I like it, and I'm sort of attached to it! His name is fine, but I think I'd miss mine. In my family, one sister kept her name, one took her husbands, and the third created a new last name with her husband. so we do things all kinds of ways :)Merihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08423593911232228585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949315742598489928.post-39244837665258035422012-01-05T17:56:26.528-06:002012-01-05T17:56:26.528-06:00When we were getting married I about had a nervous...When we were getting married I about had a nervous breakdown at the suggestion of me giving up my maiden name. My husband (then to-be) begged and begged and frankly his last name was much prettier than mine. <br /><br />I am a bit of a feminist, plus I am established in my day job.<br /><br />However, my day job is in social media and the company I work for and my blog don't exactly relate...<br /><br />So this is the result:<br /><br />Legally: First Middle Maiden Married<br /><br />Work: First Maiden<br /><br />Blog and personal writing: First Married<br /><br />Complicated? Yes. <br /><br />But it pleases everyone and helps me keep my two professional lives clear....Alexis Gracehttp://northonharper.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949315742598489928.post-71671171361736828982012-01-05T17:08:43.381-06:002012-01-05T17:08:43.381-06:00Giving up my maiden name was definitely bitterswee...Giving up my maiden name was definitely bittersweet, I loved my last name and it was full of Italian Heritage and taking my husband's, everyone now assumes I'm Irish, which I'm totally 100% not! BUT, it's nice to be the Sullivan family so I can't complain.Irish Italian Blessingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10664415012892528787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949315742598489928.post-72078103738869964422012-01-05T14:49:19.522-06:002012-01-05T14:49:19.522-06:00I always find it interesting look through vintage ...I always find it interesting look through vintage crochet magazines, how many women wrote in and signed their name, "Mrs. Husband's Name". Sign of the times for sure!Maggihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14418996821092160355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6949315742598489928.post-61699913773520359372012-01-05T11:12:52.291-06:002012-01-05T11:12:52.291-06:00one day, completely out of the blue, my boss asked...one day, completely out of the blue, my boss asked me if i was going to take my fiance's last name. without much hesitation, i answered, "probably, because it's not a feminist issue for me." (it isn't, considering my last name is my FATHER's last name... it's paternalistic and actually has very little meaning in my identity. and my "married" name sounds cool.) i was more just appalled that he asked. men don't have this kind of identity crisis. not fair.emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11112506540441079646noreply@blogger.com